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Created By: Rebel
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Comments: 5
  • Topic : Independent play - what age is OK?

    Posted April 12, 2012

    An article by ACER links the rising prevalence in childhood obesity with our parental fears of 'stranger danger'.

    The study showed that children 8-12 are less likely to play independently in public areas, or walk themselves to and from school or activities because we fear harm coming to them from strangers and other social related dangers.
    Do you restrict independent play? I do. I admit. It doesn't need to be me, but there does needs to be some adult supervision. It's just how I feel. I don't let that decision impact on exercise or outdoor play though.

    What are your thoughts? At what age do you allow them to be on their own?


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  • Posted April 13, 2012

    At 4 1/2 upwards ours played out in the yard alone but we can watch through the window, especially while preparing meals and doing the dishes. The fences are so high that you can't see over them. The height was raised an extra metre because of a dog which jumps. The gates at the side of the house have a large case-hardened padlock on them accessable from the back yard only. Our dog is very loyal and would not let a stranger near the children anyway. She has to be told a few times when new people start visiting that it is OK, and she watches intently in the beginning. If she isn't told she will stand between them and us, especially the children. They grew up together as baby and pup so they have a special bond. Out in public they have to hold our hand, especially in the vicinity of any vehicle areas. The eldest one is too big to sit in a trolley at the shops so she has to hold the trolley or one of our hands if I am not alone when shopping.

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    Posted April 12, 2012
    It depends on the area and the maturity of a child but I still wouldn't be eager oh how times have changed!
  • Posted April 12, 2012

    I have just started trusting my 4 year old mostly alone in our backyard. It is very kid friendly and has 6 foot fences but I still don''t trust him compeltly and check every 5 minutes. I think each kid would be different and each situation is different. I would never, probably not until they are 12 or so, let them loose around the street or down to the park by themselves.

  • Posted April 12, 2012

    I agree Rebel...


    Times have changed so much. I remember spending hours on end out and about doing my own thing as a kid, with no supervision and most of the time my mum had no idea where my brother and I even were!


    The terms 'wrapped in cotton-wool' and 'helicopter parenting' are used so often these days but I think parents are being over-protective for good reason.

    It's a bit sad that children are losing their independence, but as dreamdream936 said "it's better to be safe than sorry"!

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    Posted April 12, 2012

    well i always allow my 4 year to play in the play ground and around the house but never alone....either me or hubby is always around for supervision...i feel it is better to be safe than sorry...